A lady treats people with respect and kindness no matter their class, rich or poor, educated or not educated. Treat everyone from a CEO to a plumber with kindness. Don't correct someone or give advice unless they ask. Personally if it's my best friend that last one goes out the window lol.
Hold your temper, people get under my skin all of the time, the key is to change your reaction to people pushing your buttons. A lady does not respond to anger and negativity with anger and negativity, a lady keeps her cool, stays calm and chooses her words very wisely. A lady also knows when to walk away.
Mind your manners (this will come in a series that I will do one day on etiquette), always say "please, thank you, excuse me" and the like.
Look people in the eye when you speak to them and don't mumble, also, please do not say "ain't"....ever.
Don't talk about yourself too much but of course answer questions, try to focus your conversation on the other person with genuine interest.
Modesty is indeed a virtue, do no take credit that is not yours to take and don't forget to share credit when others have helped you. Don't brag about things you have done or the things you own, it's fine to be proud but bragging is another issue.
Learn to take a compliment. In the past, when I have been complimented I have usually made some negative statement about whatever I have been complimented on because I didn't know how to handle the attention. Now I simply say "thank you" or I have found an answer that makes the other person feel good is " what a sweet (wonderful, nice etc) compliment!, Thank you!"
I have read that a lady does not cross her legs at the knee but I say better that then letting your legs flop. Crossing at the ankles seems to be the most acceptable lady like option but thats not always comfortable so I say switch between the two.
Sit up straight! Posture ladies, posture! Back straight, head held high, chin slightly up and shoulders back (in public, at home I sit as I am comfortable!) But really, good posture makes you look pounds lighter.
Always make sure the back of your skirt or dress is under your legs as you sit down. Also make sure everything is in the correct place (not tucked into your panty hose or undies) when you leave the bathroom.
Stay informed on current events, movies and other current things so you will have a wealth to talk about.
Now I choose to be more lady like when I am out then when I am home. I do try to dress nicely (but comfortably at home) but you will find me sitting in all kinds of funny positions, eating less daintily then I would elsewhere and my hair is not perfectly coiffed everyday. Some women are lady like all of the time, even while sleeping I am sure lol, more power to them but I certainly need a zone where I can let my hair down.
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2 comments:
I've been thinking of these little "lessons" a lot every since the first one. Most feminists would scoff & think you were doing a disservice to womanhood but, I don't know about them, but I feel sexier, more powerful, & more confident when I do apply these basic rules (if I don't go all the way to say "instincts").
Personally, I don't see anything wrong with crossing your legs, as long as you have a decent length skirt on. But, then again, if your skirt is that short, it isn't really that "lady -like" anyway, so you better change. :)
"Ain't" is a tough one for a Texas girl, especially one raised in the country. I think it is in our blood. :)
I would also throw in driving manners into the lot. I mainly mention it because that is one of my biggest struggles. I never had road rage (or at least not that bad) until I moved out here to Dallas. Driving with courtesy (letting others in, not tailgating, not speeding, not being distracted by other things, signaling, allowing yourself to miss your turn or exit & using the next one rather than cutting across 5 lanes of traffic blaring your horn, refraining from shouting, cursing, making jesters at the slightly misguided other drivers, etc...) is not only lady-like, but much safer too.
I think it is so easy to fall into road rage because you are anonymous, people may see you but they don't know anything about you and chances are you will never see them again in your life.
You bring up a good point that it is important to remain ladylike behind the wheel as well!
You are also right about the feminist thing but I think feminism has become twisted through out the years. Maybe some women think that a woman can't be ladylike and capable too. I happen to think that a ladylike woman can not only be capable but is a little bit smarter because being a woman is a powerful thing and charm can get you quite far!
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